Crash Course on How to Make Friends in a New City
When the time comes to say farewell to college, students don’t imagine their life after college. However, it does exist and it’s exciting, especially, if you meet the right people. Friendships after college help make this transition smooth and understand where you are. It’s a stroke of luck to find your people and I’m going to try to bring you this luck.
How to Find your People
- Open up
Being approachable and communicative is the key. If at first you do not connect, or a person is not in the mood for making friends, keep on trying. You just have to find the right approach.
- Be a yes man
Be open to trying new things. Don’t just sit back and wait for a trustworthy friend to come out of nowhere. Say “yes” to things and step out of your comfort zone.
- Be active
There are many clubs, courses, and memberships that unite people with common interests. Give it a shot and you’ll discover how many people care about the same things you do.
- Go places
You can meet people anywhere if you go out sometimes. I went daily to Starbucks and soon met another coffee junkie, Frank. We clicked straight away and in a few months became friends.
- Don’t fear to be alone
Be independent. Such simple things as enrolling on a new class or going to a church alone shape you. Don’t fear being alone and you’ll get rid of your complexes about making friends.
- Don’t exclude people who stand out
Probably, in college you and your friends were on the same page. But believe me, people who think and act differently can teach you to look at the world from at a different angle. It might be really advantageous to you.
- Keep in touch with your old friends
Don’t forget about your old friends as they mean the world to you. You might have no possibility to hang out so often, but a warm call will definitely cheer you both up.
- Be patient
It takes time to establish connections. Keep trying and it’ll pay off. One day, when you are surrounded by a group of amazing people, you’ll realize that it was worth the wait.
Welcome life after college. It’s promising, especially, if you start making friends. Again, to meet the right people, you have to:
- Be active
- Go out
- Think outside the box
- Cherish your old friends
- Be patient
